Friends and Lovers

Fresh from Her Majesty the Queen's mother land, Miss Irene Bausas arrived from London last Tuesday! I had dinner with her at Banana Leaf. I wolfed down half a plate of Hainanese chicken in less than 10 minutes. Miss B and I always share the most interesting conversations. We've been friends for about... geez. 16 years now! And we've been through a lot together. It's just nice to have such a relationship with someone, where you can be brutally honest with each other.

'Course, the main topic tonight was relationships (surprise, surprise). Convo highlights...

** There are certain things about certain people (friends or lovers) which can get annoying. As you get to know someone better, you discover things he or she does (inadvertently or on purpose) which get to you. However, as time passes and as the relationship matures, you take these certain things as nuances to their personalities. You become more accepting of these things, rather than taking them against the person. Most of the time though, we can be more forgiving of our friends' nuances and shortcomings. Of course, we have higher expecations of our lovers.

** In some of our quests to find our special someone, we build new friendships. We then realize, that having these new friendships is actually more valuable than pursuing the original intention. I like it that life continues to surprise me with great, new people to share a connection with. These connections tend to be more lasting.

** Benefit of the doubt. Some guys aren't just built a certain way. Movies and urban legends have polluted our minds with great what-ifs and romantic scenarios. It isn't bad to dream about elaborate gestures, but to expect them from the ones we love most of the time isn't fair. The best moments though are simple gestures that come naturally and take us by surprise.